• 10 Tricks To Stop Impulsive Behaviors

    We all have at least one negative personality trait. Mine is impulsivity. It’s not my only negative personality trait, but it’s definitely the one that gets me in the most trouble. Impulsivity rears its ugly head in many different scenarios. From shopping to speaking, impulsivity can be a nightmare if left unchecked. So what is impulsivity, and what does it look like? Impulsivity is doing something without thinking about it beforehand. Picture this, you’re at the store to buy groceries and a delicious cake catches your eye. It’s not on your list, but you buy it anyway. That’s impulsive. Or, you’re having…

  • What’s Your Default Mode: Negative Or Positive?

    What’s your default mode? How do you react when something bad or unexpected happens? When your significant other is in a bad mood do you get upset? Do you allow negative things and people to bring you down? Can you even answer any of these questions? I ask this because for the longest time I wouldn’t have been able to answer any of these questions. Like many people, I was allowing my feelings to run in default mode. I didn’t even realize I was doing it. The worst part was my default was the equivalent of jumping down a really dark rabbit…

  • Rules Are Meant To Be Broken, Or Are They?

    Unless you’ve been living under a rock, then you’re familiar with the saying “rules are meant to be broken”. So, are you a rule breaker or a rule follower? I’m somewhere in the middle. I think rules can be beneficial at times, but when there are too many rules it starts to cause problems. So, how do you know if you should follow a rule or break it? Also, do you ask for permission first? Or, do you ask for forgiveness later? To Break The Rule Or Not? Let’s start with how do you know whether or not you should break a…

  • The Art Of Being Tactful

    Are you tactful? Tact is one of the most important skill sets to develop. It can make or break you. Unfortunately, it’s also on the decline. As a society we’ve shifted away from politeness and tact to a more direct and abrasive style of communication. Being direct isn’t bad. However, being abrasive is. In general, people have a hard time separating the two. We’ve adopted the ideology that in order to be heard we have to be abrasive and assert our dominance. But, that’s not true. In fact, it does the exact opposite. Yelling your commands may get a reaction from someone,…

  • How To Cultivate Poise

    I’ve been obsessed with the idea of poise and class since childhood. I vividly remember being so excited at the opportunity to attend an etiquette class when I was a child. You see, when I was in 2rd grade, my school announced that they were selecting 30 girls to participate in an etiquette class at school. Since they never told us the criteria they were using to make their selection, every night I blindly prayed that I would get picked. Unfortunately, I was not chosen. My sister was. To say that I was disappointed would be an understatement. My sister had no…

  • 15 Signs You May Be A Negative Person

    We all know at least one person that drains the life out of us. But, what exactly is a negative person? According to Psychology Today, a negative person is a pessimistic person who tends to be disagreeable and skeptical. They are oftentimes irritable, downbeat, hopeless, and sad. It’s a person who never has anything positive to say and gets jealous often. We can spot these people a mile away based on how they make us feel. But, how do you know you’re not one of them? This can be tricky. The way others view us and the way we view ourselves doesn’t…

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    Am I Being Judgmental? Spoiler Alert: I Was Wrong!

    Am I being judgmental? This is a question I come back to often. Making snap judgements isn’t a bad thing. It’s a necessary survival skill. There’s not enough time to analyze everything. So the idea that we can be 100% non-judgmental isn’t realistic. However, it is possible to be overly-judgmental. Let’s be honest, not every situation requires a snap judgement. Most of the time we have plenty of time to analyze or at least spend a few extra minutes assessing a particular situation/person before passing judgement. So, why are we so quick to make snap judgements? Is it pure laziness? Or, are…

  • Haters Gonna Hate

    There are two types of people in this world, those that hate and those that focus on self improvement.┬áHaters will always spew their hate, and it has nothing to do with what they “hate”. Seriously, next time you find yourself hating something, maybe you should take a step back and ask yourself why you hate it so much. Do you really hate what you say you hate? Or, are just feeling insecure about yourself and using hate as a distractor? I’ve got $100 bill that says you’re trying to distract both yourself and others from your own perceived flaws. Go ahead, try…

  • Are You Setting Goals The Right Way?

    Are you setting goals the right way? Ok, that question is a little misleading. There really isn’t a right or wrong way to set goals. If it works for you then that’s all that really matters. I won’t sit here and tell you that you’re doing everything wrong. That’s presumptuous and oftentimes dead wrong. And, if we’re being real it’s annoying. I hate when people pretend that they’re experts. Especially, when you figure out that their research and data is all crap. At the end of the day, most people are just trying to pump out a blog post or hear themselves…

  • Question: What’s Your Favorite Book And Movie?

      What’s your favorite book and movie? Have you ever been asked this in an interview? I personally never have. Then again, I haven’t interviewed for a job in a long time. However, now that my kids are all in school during the day, the idea of going back to work has crossed my mind a few times. It’s usually fleeting. The logistics of an actual work schedule and my kids’ schedule doesn’t really pan out well. Even though I know I’m not going to go back to work for a company anytime in the near future, I still like to research…

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